Project 2 draft- Absence makes the heart grow fonder

In our society today, many people hold this popular belief or myth that absence makes the heart grow fonder; but does absence really make the heart grow fonder? Where do we get this idea about absence making the heart grow fonder? Does being apart or out of the presence of someone makes the heart desire them, or care for them more? Did this idea arise from experience or is it mere opinion? Goenglish.com defines this phrase as "the time you spend away from the one you love makes you love that person even more" Is this really true? Let’s explore this phrase even more.
One may argue that being away from someone causes the heart to long for them, as in the case of a loved one or a spouse, being separated from them brings a feeling of loneliness, longing and desire. Separation makes you desire to be with your loved one even more than you might have before, therefore you try to find pleasure in what is there, your heart seeks satisfaction in the moments that you and your loved one have shared together, you reminisce on past events, holidays, activities shared with that person; you remember how you felt just being with that person, how they made you smile and might even appreciate the arguments you have had in times past. This makes the heart grow fonder of that person as the days go by. You wish to see them more and more and finally when you are able to be in the presence of that person once more, you’re happy and the relationship grows stronger changes and improvements are made and you wish never to be separated from the person again.
In another example with a parent and a child who are constantly at each other`s throat, the fighting never stops and the child longs to be away from the parent. They wish to have independence from the parent`s authority. They finally receive that freedom to be one their own but suddenly it seems that that is not what they really wanted. They now realize that being under the parent`s rule was not so bad after all. They suddenly accept the fact that the parent`s authority was important to shape their future in a positive direction, they long to be with the parent once more and doesn’t mind being under their authority. Absence has made them fonder of that parent; but would it be a good for that child to be with the parent once more? In that case the fighting might have begun once more and we could only conclude that living apart from that parent makes the child care for them more in other words fond of them. I f the child did in fact move in with the parent again and things were better, we could still conclude that absence brought about this change; but absence doesn’t always bring about this positive change, it doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder. Let’s explore another side of this myth.
In the case of the spouse or loved one, things could have been totally different. The partner might have realized that being apart from their spouse is just what they needed, this might have been the once in a lifetime opportunity they have waited for to have their own space, they might have seen this as a freedom opportunity to do what they have always wanted to do without having to hear objections from their spouse. They may take this as a party time, a time to hang out with their friends, a time to even be disloyal to their spouse. They might have never gotten the opportunity to enjoy this freedom before; therefore they make use of every passing minute spent away from their spouse. They are totally elated to have this time away from the confines of a partner and when the spouse returns, conflict erupts because of the simple fact that they are disappointed that they are within their partner`s presence once more and they aren’t able to do the things that they were capable of doing while the significant other was away. The relationship takes a turn downhill........